Bring it 2012!

Posted on December 29, 2011. Filed under: Everyday Me | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Where did 2011 go?! There are only a handful of hours left in the year and I don’t even remember if I made any resolutions that I have neglected – gah! I have decided that I am going to ‘pen’ (or blog) my 2012 resolutions to better help hold myself accountable, but before I can think about what I want to accomplish in the upcoming year let me take a moment to reflect on where I’ve been in 2011.

2011 year in review…
Overall 2011 seemed to treat me pretty well. I was able to finally get married to the absolute best man in the world, and it was a beautiful day. It was absolutely lovely and I could not have asked for more from that! The wedding is definitely falling into the wonderful category of things that 2011 gave me. I was able to attend a few management courses that really opened my eyes up to how young I am and how much I have the ability to achieve. It has definitely made me want to take the bull by the horns in 2012 and start doing things for me instead of everyone else. That is a powerful feeling.

2011 wasn’t all rainbows and happiness though. There was a lot of unnecessary drama and strife that did not need to be a part of my year. Having survived the year I can really reflect and say that wow, I have learned a lot! Life has a funny way of really pushing you to limits you didn’t realize you had. I am a strong woman, and every time something pushes me a bit further I realize just how much stronger I am – that is a powerful feeling people!

Having all of this, mostly, behind me I want to make sure that 2012 is one for the record books in a great way. I want to set out some initial resolutions and goals to help me stay on a good track this year. Here goes for my resolutions…

2012 Resolutions

Be a healthier me. I do my best to work out and eat healthy when I can, what I want to start doing is making this more of a priority. If you need an excuse to get out of working out, give me a call – I could easily rattle at least 20 excuses off of the top of my head. In 2012 I want to try to make working out part of my everyday, or most days, routine. Really focus in on getting some cardio, doing my pilates and trying new things. I love doing BodyPump (by Les Mills) but I want to expand, try some yoga at a yoga studio and work some dance into my weekly routine. I really believe that keeping your workouts fresh helps you stay engaged in them, and that is the path I want to set out on in 2012. As for eating, I am very good with portion size, so I just need to keep that up, but where I could use some work is planning my meals out in advance. I get into ruts where I feel busy and choose working out over cooking and then come home to chicken nuggets and macaroni and cheese. I really enjoy cooking, it is just so much fun to me (I even have a blog of my cooking adventures: and I know that there are ways I can cook good, hearty meals in a small amount of time. I just need to reframe my thinking – the 1/2 hour I spend watching The New Girl is 1/2 hour I could spend whipping up a better meal than chicken nuggets…

Carve Out More Time for Myself. I have been told that I am a giving person, and that is such a wonderful compliment. I love giving – whether it be gifts, my time or money I enjoy helping where I can. Helping others too often sometimes leaves me stressed out and wishing I could be doing other things which builds up such resentment. I need to learn how to better carve out some quiet time for myself and activities I enjoy doing and I need to do them. I joined a book club so I want to make sure that I keep up with that in the New Year. It is something I like and it is a group of women that I do not normally socialize with so it is refreshing every month when we meet. I think being able to learn how to better say ‘No’ without guilt will allow me to improve myself overall. I think I could even squeeze in some cooking classes and dance classes to help with my resolution above, which is extra positive!

Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff. A hobby of mine is worrying. I’m not sure how I fell into this rut, or why, maybe it’s because I’m the oldest child and live the farthest away from my folks but I’m here. I have started making great strides this year in not sweating the really small stuff. One huge victory – on my wedding day our limo ran out of gas, I took a deep breath and just laughed it off. I decided the Monday after the wedding I would be able to deal with that dilemma but on our big day it was definitely not the stress we needed, and that was definitely a HUGE improvement on my ‘normal’ behavior. This is something I want to keep working on. If there is nothing I can do to change it then I just need to stick it to the wall and walk away; just time to let it go. I think I can definitely accomplish this. The small changes I have made so far in just letting things go have made a good difference, and one that a few folks have complimented me on. It’s nice to have people note that you are able to let certain things go and have a good outlook. I am still always going to be a NJ girl so I’ll still always be the first to stick up for the underdog and myself and not let bigger things go, but the small things – just chalk them up to life and move on. I can do this!

Start Journaling. I have become very good at making books, I bind them and fix them up all beautiful and then I give them away. In keeping with doing things for myself, I’m going to make a book or two just for me, and it will be fab! I think journaling is a great way to let some stress of the day out and remember what is important. I plan to focus a bit on what went on during the day, and what made me smile that day. I think that years from now looking back on these journals will be a fun reminder of all the great things in my life and how far we have all come. I am most excited for this resolution.

2012 can definitely be a great year, and I think my resolutions will be attainable and realistic and will hopefully bring about long-term positive changes. I know I may not have as many resolutions as the common man but these are what I want to work on and focus on. They may seem a bit lofty but again I think that they are small changes that make a big difference and these are things that I have wanted to focus on, January 1,2012 is just a good excuse to start holding myself accountable for them. Good luck to everyone out there on their resolutions – just stick to them and you will be able to achieve them! So bring it 2012, because I’m ready to make some great changes!

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New Year – New Promises/Goals/Resolutions

Posted on January 5, 2010. Filed under: Everyday Me | Tags: , , , , , , |

I wouldn’t say that I go to the gym regularly, but I don’t not go regularly either. I’m an average gym user – just really out to get my money’s worth from the membership and stay in shape to a certain extent. Well that being said I went last night – January 4th and what I forgot was that about 5 days ago at least a million or so people pledged that in 2010 (two thousand and ten or twenty ten whichever you prefer) they would go to the gym and lose weight which made the gym: crazy, packed, out of control, uncomfortable, etc etc. It was intense to say the least. But I’m not really here to vent on and on about how crazy crowded the gym was and how I can’t wait for it to calm down in about 3 weeks (though I really can’t wait for it to calm down). I’m also not here to push people to bail out and fail their resolutions of loosing weight (but if it gets them out of my usually empty classes then I may be for it…). Alas, I am here to lay on the line what I’m thinking resolution-wise for myself in 2010.

Back in December I talked with a few friends about this resolution business: should I have one, what would it be, what should I aspire to do or not do, etc…. And at least 3 of my friends confided that they didn’t actually intend to create a resolution at all. They were going to go into 2010 sans-resolution and just live life. That seemed like a principle I could live with! Then I went to the gym and if all those people have at least one resolution maybe I should reconsider my stance on that. I’ve come up with a few resolutions, mostly long-term, some maybe more goal oriented than resolution oriented but either way you look at it I have a few things on my plate that I will do my best to motivate myself to do (and be) in 2010:

1. Be a nicer person everyday…

This is quasi-new to me. I do make a general effort to be a happy, nice and cheerful person but sometimes life truly gets the better of me. Not to say that NJ people are mean or negative in any way shape or form, but hailing from the garden state has given me a good ‘edge’. I honk at people, I have little to-no patience and overall if I have an opinion I’m going to put it out there for you to hear – this is the old me. The new/resolution-ized version of myself will try to sing along to the song on the radio instead of honking (all bets are off if there’s a commercial on!), count to 10 in an effort to develop patience  (or at least put on a front that I have some before loosing my cool) and bite my tongue if nothing positive will come of releasing my opinion. I’ve tried biting my tongue more in adverse situations and the result thus far is pretty favorable. Yelling, arguing and getting angry really doesn’t help many (if any) situations. The more I’ve bitten my tongue the more people have been willing to work with and help me when I need it. Normally yelling gets people defensive, angry and upset and that’s not helpful at all! So this one may actually stick. I have no promises on how long I’ll be anti-horn-honking though…

2. Don’t take the pessimistic, negative scapegoat route – try to stay on the positive and see the silver lining to even the crummiest of situations.

I’m an advice-column junkie…and this goal was inspired by an advice column I glanced at: .

In short – it’s super easy to be negative and see things in a truly ugly light. For instance, if you have to go to a meeting daily it’s never “woo hoo I get away from my desk for 20 minutes, get to chat and maybe score some free food” it’s usually “UGH another meeting…”. So I’m going to try to take the high road and turn the lemons into lemonade (spiked lemonade possibly) and see how that treats me. I truly believe that even thinking of a crappy situation with a positive spin if not true, will at least will bring a smile to your face because of how off base it is (ie: I spilled coffee on my shirt on the metro this morning and it is truly great because I was really hoping to have a good reason to snag that blouse I’ve been eyeing in the window of Banana Republic for at least 3 weeks – can’t wait till lunch after wearing the dirty shirt for 3 hours to pick it up!!)

3. Getting over my technological dependency

Do I really want to check work-emails (or any email for that matter) while I’m lounging on a beach on vacation? Unless you are really truly forced to, who would honestly want to do that? And how many of us have gone on vacations this year and JUMPED at the opportunity to check email when they even glanced at an available computer. A few years ago I vowed to stop checking email on vacation – getting an absolutely horrible email while you’re away and can’t do anything about  just ruins the vacation, so for a while I stopped, now I’m back on the “I must know what’s in my inbox at all times” train but I’m going to do my best to kick that habit when it’s not absolutely necessary and really start to  enjoy myself on vacation!

4. Enjoy life

Stop and smell the roses (or cherry blossoms), walk at a nice slow pace instead of rushing, walk home more, look around and notice things (little things like signs, etc), wave to people in the booths in parking garages, etc. Just do the things I enjoy at a nice enjoyable pace. If I’m 5 minutes late to something that’s not really important: who cares?! Life is about the experience and I’m really going to try to make 2010 a good one for myself and those around me! 🙂

Anyone else come up with some great/good/average/exciting resolutions for the New Year? Feel free to share if you have any! 🙂

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