New Year – New Promises/Goals/Resolutions

Posted on January 5, 2010. Filed under: Everyday Me | Tags: , , , , , , |

I wouldn’t say that I go to the gym regularly, but I don’t not go regularly either. I’m an average gym user – just really out to get my money’s worth from the membership and stay in shape to a certain extent. Well that being said I went last night – January 4th and what I forgot was that about 5 days ago at least a million or so people pledged that in 2010 (two thousand and ten or twenty ten whichever you prefer) they would go to the gym and lose weight which made the gym: crazy, packed, out of control, uncomfortable, etc etc. It was intense to say the least. But I’m not really here to vent on and on about how crazy crowded the gym was and how I can’t wait for it to calm down in about 3 weeks (though I really can’t wait for it to calm down). I’m also not here to push people to bail out and fail their resolutions of loosing weight (but if it gets them out of my usually empty classes then I may be for it…). Alas, I am here to lay on the line what I’m thinking resolution-wise for myself in 2010.

Back in December I talked with a few friends about this resolution business: should I have one, what would it be, what should I aspire to do or not do, etc…. And at least 3 of my friends confided that they didn’t actually intend to create a resolution at all. They were going to go into 2010 sans-resolution and just live life. That seemed like a principle I could live with! Then I went to the gym and if all those people have at least one resolution maybe I should reconsider my stance on that. I’ve come up with a few resolutions, mostly long-term, some maybe more goal oriented than resolution oriented but either way you look at it I have a few things on my plate that I will do my best to motivate myself to do (and be) in 2010:

1. Be a nicer person everyday…

This is quasi-new to me. I do make a general effort to be a happy, nice and cheerful person but sometimes life truly gets the better of me. Not to say that NJ people are mean or negative in any way shape or form, but hailing from the garden state has given me a good ‘edge’. I honk at people, I have little to-no patience and overall if I have an opinion I’m going to put it out there for you to hear – this is the old me. The new/resolution-ized version of myself will try to sing along to the song on the radio instead of honking (all bets are off if there’s a commercial on!), count to 10 in an effort to develop patience  (or at least put on a front that I have some before loosing my cool) and bite my tongue if nothing positive will come of releasing my opinion. I’ve tried biting my tongue more in adverse situations and the result thus far is pretty favorable. Yelling, arguing and getting angry really doesn’t help many (if any) situations. The more I’ve bitten my tongue the more people have been willing to work with and help me when I need it. Normally yelling gets people defensive, angry and upset and that’s not helpful at all! So this one may actually stick. I have no promises on how long I’ll be anti-horn-honking though…

2. Don’t take the pessimistic, negative scapegoat route – try to stay on the positive and see the silver lining to even the crummiest of situations.

I’m an advice-column junkie…and this goal was inspired by an advice column I glanced at: .

In short – it’s super easy to be negative and see things in a truly ugly light. For instance, if you have to go to a meeting daily it’s never “woo hoo I get away from my desk for 20 minutes, get to chat and maybe score some free food” it’s usually “UGH another meeting…”. So I’m going to try to take the high road and turn the lemons into lemonade (spiked lemonade possibly) and see how that treats me. I truly believe that even thinking of a crappy situation with a positive spin if not true, will at least will bring a smile to your face because of how off base it is (ie: I spilled coffee on my shirt on the metro this morning and it is truly great because I was really hoping to have a good reason to snag that blouse I’ve been eyeing in the window of Banana Republic for at least 3 weeks – can’t wait till lunch after wearing the dirty shirt for 3 hours to pick it up!!)

3. Getting over my technological dependency

Do I really want to check work-emails (or any email for that matter) while I’m lounging on a beach on vacation? Unless you are really truly forced to, who would honestly want to do that? And how many of us have gone on vacations this year and JUMPED at the opportunity to check email when they even glanced at an available computer. A few years ago I vowed to stop checking email on vacation – getting an absolutely horrible email while you’re away and can’t do anything about  just ruins the vacation, so for a while I stopped, now I’m back on the “I must know what’s in my inbox at all times” train but I’m going to do my best to kick that habit when it’s not absolutely necessary and really start to  enjoy myself on vacation!

4. Enjoy life

Stop and smell the roses (or cherry blossoms), walk at a nice slow pace instead of rushing, walk home more, look around and notice things (little things like signs, etc), wave to people in the booths in parking garages, etc. Just do the things I enjoy at a nice enjoyable pace. If I’m 5 minutes late to something that’s not really important: who cares?! Life is about the experience and I’m really going to try to make 2010 a good one for myself and those around me! 🙂

Anyone else come up with some great/good/average/exciting resolutions for the New Year? Feel free to share if you have any! 🙂


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top of my goals for this year was to Be Positive.
Being negative is far too easy!!


I know right?! It’s SO easy to get sucked into being negative…It will be hard work to keep up with the positive but we can do it!!

“They were going to go into 2010 sans-resolution and just live life. That seemed like a principle I could live with!”

That’s my philosophy, essentially. I made a New Year’s resolution a few years back to make no more New Year’s resolutions – and have stuck to it so far!

Still, I think all of yours are good things to strive for, no matter what time of year it is.

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